The tricky business of forgiveness

Leo Gura from actualized.org summarises the five reasons behind people hurting us: ignorance, fear, selfishness, the need for love and lack of consciousness. Then he poses the question. Could we forgive someone who acted from ignorance, fear etc? Then could we forgive ourselves for times we've acted out of ignorance, fear etc? For those ready to dive down the rabbit hole of non-duality he talks about the boundary between self and other only being a perception. That if we can forgive ourselves we can forgive the other and vice versa. He ends with a practical warning. If you're in an abusive relationship get out of it, cut the ties to that person, then do this forgiveness work. As this work is not about them, it's about the load of pain we carry because of what they did and how we go about letting go of that. https://youtu.be/GlFjhO0lgLA