- is it important
- is my response level appropriate
- can I change anything.
If the answer is "no" to any of these questions then its time to reflect and consider if its really worth getting stressed about.
I should have remembered all this when my credit card wouldn't work at the supermarket at the weekend and I ended up waiting in the ten deep queue at the service desk to get another go at paying. Was it important? - well a nuisance but not big in the scheme of things - credit cards do these things. Was my response level appropriate - no, because I got frustrated waiting in the queue and that only got me feeling off for the rest of the day. Could I change anything? - no because there were only so many staff and thats not their fault, its the corporations and it was probably a bank or scanning error - none of which I could stop from happening again.
So when the subconscious program takes over and you don't catch yourself in time with those three questions what do you do to regain equilibrium? I watched a relaxation/self-hypnosis video on Youtube which contained an interesting thought - trance is a rhythm that you can learn. That got me thinking that health and happiness must have its own rhythm too. So then I visualized/mentally remembered how I felt when I felt right with the world and focused on that. It took a few goes to keep bringing myself to focus on that rather than what had annoyed me but after a few goes it started to take root. So for me it does seem that wellness/happiness does have its own rhythm and if you can remember how that feels and visualize it your body-mind will respond in reasonably short-time.